While you are not the source of all your own mental imperfections, the responsibility for personal development falls on you.

If you don't take care of yourself, nobody will.
This will be true until you die, not just now.
Prioritize yourself. Learn your needs and meet them.
Advocate for yourself. Be assertive. Set boundaries. Ask for help.

Your mental health is not your employer's responsibility.

Universities are not uniquely special employers: they will not take care of you.

In undergrad, you have to take care of yourself.
You are paying to go to school. The university's responsibility is to provide courses and a degree. The university is not responsible for your mental health. Your mental health is your responsibility. Don't wait for the university to treat you better. Actively seek help when you need it. You are in charge of your own life.

In grad school, you have to take care of yourself.
Don't let things get bad, then bemoan your graduate program for overworking you.
Take responsibility. Refuse requests. Take breaks. Don't allow yourself to be overworked.
Say, "No." Learn to politely decline. "No" is a superpower. Don't put this off.

After school, in the world of work, you have to take care of yourself.
Your mental health is not your employer's responsibility. When you are in your thirties or forties, working a job, it will be your responsibility to take care of your mental health.
Take vacation days. Take sick days. Decline responsibilities. Say, "No".

There are systemic problems, but you don't have time to wait for systemic solutions.

Your mental health is your responsibility.
Your mental health is not your family's responsibility, though they may help.
Your mental health is not your romantic partner's responsibility, though they may help.
Your mental health is your responsibility. You are your responsibility.
Take care of yourself.

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